Choosing a significant mate is not based on physical appearance, social status, intellectual ability and financial means but based solely on Character & qualification.

Timothy was to make selections according to those qualifcations. Anyone whose lifestyle demonstrated the necessary qualities was an acceptable candidate.The qualities of character that Paul laid down here for overseers
and deacons sound also like excellent qualities to look for in a mate: “above reproach…temperate, self-controlled to, respectable, hospitable not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.”
These are the kinds of things God looks or in a person He chooses. These are the standards by which He measures, and we should do the same.
In the course of daily living, there may be many people who will cross our paths who demonstrate these qualities. According to these standards, anyone of them could be a potential mate. The only way to know for sure is by getting to know them by building friendship with them. These types you of qualities will not come out through a casual acquaintance. We must spent a lot time with someone in order to discern his or her character. Anyone can put on his best behaviour for a while. At some point, he or she will show his or her true colors. How he responds to the circumstances of life will reveal his character. If we know ahead of time the qualities and character that we are looking for in a mate. It will be much easier for us to recognize that person whenever he or she comes along….

Choosing a life partner is not a matter of getting a magical sense or a supernatural revelation that, “This is the one”. It is a matter of getting to know people who cross your path and evaluating them by the uncompromising standards you have established beforehand; recognizing always that you will find more than one person who meets those standards. This is what makes finding a life partner a choice in the truest sense of the world. Our of all people you know and of all friendship you develop, you choose one person with whom you wish to.spend the rest of your life with. This is no a haphazard choice but a deliberate and sober choice. It is a reaching place where you approach another and say with deliberate confidence, “I choose you”.