PLEASE HELP! I Love Him So Much But I’m Afraid I’ve Lost Him

December 11, 2020

I’m a 24-year-old lady living and working in Abuja. My job is very time demanding.

I’m usually very busy on weekdays, and sometimes on weekends I can get called to work if something important comes up.


There is a guy I’ve known for months now.


We met in Abuja at an event, and we’ve been friends since. He lives in Lagos but visits Abuja occasionally

He’s also a very busy guy, and he hardly has time on his hands. We have spent some time together talking and getting to know each other, but we haven’t been on an official date.


Most of our interaction has been over phone calls and WhatsApp text messages due to the distance barrier.


I fell in love with him during the course of our friendship.


He is everything I want in a man. He’s financially stable, very good-looking and smart.


The few times I’ve spent talking to him have been a pleasure, both for my eyes and for my mind.


I never thought I could ever meet someone who checks all those boxes perfectly.


Men like him usually get a lot of female attention and I’ve tried to tread carefully.


I didn’t want him to see me as cheap but I also don’t want him to think I am not interested in him.


The day he told me he loved me was very memorable for me because I felt the same way. A Few days later I told him I loved him too.


Due to the distance barrier, we could only talk on the phone. I’m a very decent lady with good upbringing but because of what I felt for him, I did things I thought I’d never do.


One night we had a sex chat that ended in me sending nudes to him. I’ve never done this before.


This made me feel vulnerable and cheap because even though he said he loved me, I never believed him because he didn’t really act like someone who was in love with me.


He wasn’t the type to call every day and there were periods where he would disappear for days and ignore my calls and texts and then return like nothing happened.


Last week we planned a special meeting. I was to travel to Lagos to see him at his place on Saturday morning.


He had planned to refund me the money I’d use for my airline ticket and even hire a taxi that would bring me straight to his place from the airport.


The way he sounded I knew he took it as a big deal. I agreed to come see him in Lagos. On Friday morning he called and I assured him I was going to come.


He called me again in the afternoon and I assured him I was going to come.


Towards the end of work on Friday, my boss informed me that I had to be at work on Saturday to complete a very important project.


Immediately I got the information I sent him a text. I was too tired when I left for home and I planned on calling him later that evening.


I was so tired that I took a quick nap and woke up to missed calls from him. I called him back and asked if he got my message, and he said he didn’t.


I informed him of the change in plans, and he got very furious. He accused me of being indecisive and playing games.


He said he had cancelled lots of meetings and spent money preparing for my visit and was disappointed that I didn’t take him as seriously as he took me.


He ended the call in annoyance and I’ve not heard from him since. He isn’t picking my calls or replying my texts.


I’ve sent him voice messages on WhatsApp apologizing and explaining myself, but he hasn’t replied.


I really love this guy and I don’t want to lose him.


He probably thinks I’m lying to him or that I have someone else I’m seeing but that’s not the case.


What Should I Do?

Dec 11, 2020 at 06:27 PM
Dec 11, 2020 at 06:27 PM
Dec 11, 2020 at 06:27 PM
Sleep and chop
Dec 12, 2020 at 02:39 PM
Love story 1
Dec 12, 2020 at 02:39 PM
Give him time though
Dec 24, 2020 at 02:42 PM
Give him time
Dec 26, 2020 at 01:12 PM
Give him is space..
Dec 30, 2020 at 02:49 PM
Jan 05, 2021 at 11:12 AM
Goan and ask your grandfather...
Just kidding
You should tell him how u feel
Jan 28, 2021 at 06:04 PM
Feb 28, 2021 at 10:36 PM
Love 101